Gottman Couples Therapy

Gottman Therapy, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, is a research-based approach designed to improve relationships and strengthen marital bonds. Our psychologists in Calgary provide specialized Gottman Therapy to couples seeking to enhance their connection and resolve conflicts effectively.

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Key Components of Gottman Therapy:

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• The Sound Relationship House: Gottman Therapy is grounded in the concept of the "Sound Relationship House," which encompasses various elements crucial for healthy relationships, including trust, communication, intimacy, and conflict resolution.

• Assessment Tools: Gottman Therapy utilizes evidence-based assessment tools to identify areas of strength and areas needing improvement within the relationship. These assessments help tailor interventions to the specific needs of each couple.

• The Four Horsemen: Gottman identified four negative communication patterns, known as the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," which can erode relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Gottman Therapy focuses on replacing these destructive behaviours with healthier communication strategies.

• Repair and De-Escalation Techniques: Couples learn techniques to repair conflicts and de-escalate arguments effectively. These strategies promote understanding, empathy, and emotional connection, even during disagreements.

• Building Friendship and Intimacy: Gottman Therapy emphasizes the importance of building friendship and intimacy within the relationship. Couples learn how to nurture fondness, admiration, and appreciation for each other, fostering a strong emotional bond.

• Love Maps and Shared Meaning: Couples develop "love maps" – a deeper understanding of each other's inner worlds, dreams, and values. Additionally, they work on creating shared meaning and rituals of connection that strengthen their bond over time.

 

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